Some dudes love online dating. Some think it’s lame.
I’ve never formally done the online dating thing – meaning, I’ve never met a chick off Match, Plentyoffish or any of the actual “dating sites”, but I’ve still run a lot of “online game” I guess you could call it…
My expirience and history of online game is similar to that of my boy Solo’s (blog gone?)
Culdcept had some good posts on online dating/gaming, but apparently he’s gone too…
What’s going on, guys?
Anyway… back to my story. It started with Blackplanet, because that’s what everybody was on in high school. We’d message a girl back and forth, get her AIM screen name, move the conversation over to instant message, and then eventually get her phone number and move the convo to texting and calling.
That’s about all it was at first.
Then, there was MiGente, AsianAvenue and MixedRace, all of which I also made pages and would message chicks on.
It wasn’t until college until I actually started to escalate meeting girls off of these sites to banging them in real life, but I did start to do that. Then, Myspace came along and I would message girls, meet girls and bang girls off of Myspace too.
But, Facebook was different….
At, first especially.
Since, Facebook you had to use your real name and your college email address, it seemed a lot more real. Everybody on my friendslist was somebody I had actually met in real life. Early on, I would add people on Facebook pretty much as soon as I would meet them – it helped me remember peoples’s names when I met them in college, otherwise I was pretty bad with names.
Because of this though, I never went around Facebook messaging random girls I didn’t know. It just seemed off-putting, try-hard and out of place. No. I’d use Myspace for that.
Facebook was more of a suppliment to real life. I’d meet girls at a party and then they’d message me on Facebook the following week trying to get to know me… Or I’d use it to escalate with girls I already knew.
The lucky break on Facebook to me was when girls who I DID NOT KNOW and never met in real life would add me as a friend. I saw those as golden opportunities and would message them shit like “so you just saw me on your friends page and thought you’d add me because I was cute?”
And they always said something like, “haha, yeah.. pretty much”
This is how I’ve gotten almost all of my Facebook bangs. From girls I don’t know randomly adding me as a friend.
Meanwhile, Myspace I was just a mass message machine. I’d send a copy and pasted message out to every girl with a pulse in a 20 mile radius and see who responded. It was usually something very blatant like “what’s up baby? I see you looking cute in your pictures…. get at me”
Obviously, now that I’m learning game, I realize that’s a pretty flawed opener for many reasons.
I didn’t know why it was flawed back then, and I was still living in the fantasy land that I could fuck any girl I wanted with just my looks and not worry about game at all….
But, it did work occasionally. It was a numbers game if there ever was one…. and the majority of girls that it wound up working on were either 2 years uglier than their pictures or extremely shy, antisocial types.
I fucked some of each.
The shy, antisocial ones being the better in bed of the two.
But, I grew tired of that. I realized that I had virtually no game in real life and I relied on the internet to meet women and get laid. And because of that, I was getting either antisocial, crazy girls, or chicks that were just obviously below me in the dating market.
And that’s when I swore off meeting girls online and started to focus on real life encounters.
That’s why I’ve never ventured to Match or Plentyoffish or any of the other sites.
I largely view any girl on there as not worth my time. And I’m pretty sure that any of the ones that are decent, are getting messaged by 1,000′s of guys already and probably don’t even check that shit or take it seriously anymore…
Now, I’m not saying there’s no room for online game, hell that’s probably where the majority of my notches have come from.
It’s just something that I swore off long ago, and don’t care to be bothered with.
But, I do wonder if I should go the Krauser route and work on integrating Facebook back into the meeting girls in real life thing. Should I ask chicks for their Facebook instead of their phone number? That could definitely help mitigate those “Who is this?” texts.
Hmmmm…. ponder…. ponder…..
Thoughts? Advice?
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Yes what is happening to everyone? I don’t get why you’d *delete* your blog, even if you don’t feel like writing it. Come back Solo and Culdcept, I enjoyed reading you…
Online dating: I reckon dating sites themselves are best for guys who are a bit older than ourselves, maybe late 20s. I think I might get a profile when I graduate just to let it simmer and maybe get a few dates.
yeah I agree. what is with all the blogs dying..
I just realized me and WW use the same theme
lol @ white guy on “ethnic” sites.
Seems like you were getting laid a lot more back then via online game. You’re not getting any now. Why not just go back to what works?
Low-quality pussy > no pussy.
“Low-quality pussy > no pussy.”
I actually disagree with that equation. Why the hell would I want low quality pussy?
“Seems like you were getting laid a lot more back then via online game. You’re not getting any now. Why not just go back to what works?”
Umm…. define “works”. I’ve dated and made out with way more and much higher quality girls this year practicing game than I ever have online, and I’ve slept with about the same amount of girls this year, as my best year ever online.
I think I’m doing a lot better now actually. And, my game has improved a lot this year. “Go back to what works” doesn’t even apply. It’s all about improvement, getting better and trying to reach that next level.
Who wants to stay stuck in the same place?
I feel like you missed the point of this post. The point was that I grew tired of “online game” as normally defined, and definitely as strictly online game, but that maybe incorporating Facebook more into my normal game could be a possibility worth exploring.
As simple as it is, spinaroonie made a good point. Go back to what works. Facebook, texting, online dating, etc is the way of the world.
Just because you put an ad out there, it doesn’t mean you’re desperate or that you must go on a dates with just anyone. I’d expect you would be just as picky with online dating as you would be in any bar picking up chicks. I’ve found that it’s best to get them on a webcam before you meet – then you know what they look like for sure. I’m tired of the outdated pictures, I can tell you that much, and I make no apologies if I’m rude when we meet because YOUR picture is 10 years old.
Love the new layout, by the way. I’ve been slacking off on reading blogs lately =/
There are still quality women online. I know this for a fact. As to the question of whether or not you should integrate Facebook into your game, I’d say only do it if you need a reminder of who the girl is. Otherwise, I don’t like the way a Facebook page will get completely get rid of the intrigue and mystery of meeting a new girl. That’s why I’m hesitant to add a girl on Facebook who I’m dating…
I’ve met some weird girls online, but I’ve also met some super outgoing girls online. In fact, in an article I read recently, it said that the outgoing types are more likely to join online dating sites, because they are so open to meeting more people. It’s not just the shy social recluses. As for the girls getting thousands of messages, yes it’s true. A lot of luck online has to do with timing, a good first message, and getting their phone number so you are not just another online hack.
“. As for the girls getting thousands of messages, yes it’s true. A lot of luck online has to do with timing, a good first message, and getting their phone number so you are not just another online hack.”
Sooooo true. Being that I’m an “average” looking girl, I still get a ridiculous amount of messages. When I say that, I mean it. After reading “ur hot” or something similar (and equally as mindless) I start to think to myself “oh – a new message. Let’s see what this fruitcake has to say.” It makes me giddy to see a message from someone that takes the time to send a good one. Timing is good, but a good subject line other than “wow” or “r u into (insert race here) guys?” works well too. These are just a few examples, I have tons, but you get the idea I’m sure. Plus you’re much more creative with a one-liner than most of the morons online!
I tend to get turned off my most chick’s online profiles though.
They always say shit like “Looking for Mr. Right” Or “Looking for a man, no more boys!”
I can’t help but read shit like that and think, “this bitch is stupid…”
Well if you’re only looking to get laid, try Adult Friend Finder (dot com).
Don’t ask how I know. LOL
Naw, tried that before. It was a bunch of foreign asian chicks talking about “I’m in your city, if you can send some money to my family back home I’ll come visit you tonight.”
Oh, then there was one real chick that was in her 30′s that wanted me to fuck her while her husband watched….
I passed.
fbook and the digital world have burned me so many ways to sundown. hell, the blog has multiple times. too many digital footprints. i’m amazed when dudes post anything with their face or likeness, or don’t edit dates/times/people/descriptions in their blog….b/c it takes me back to the times i was outed as a result of how wide the world web is…and how far the blog reaches with its arms open wide…and b/c haters will go to great lengths to out you.
I think youve really got to find a balance between the two. As the world goes more and more digital your online game is going to need to be tight but not at the cost of your live game. You should try an experiment for a month of online heavy game vs. a month of heavy live game. I need to practice what I preach here though my online game is pretty much zero but I do really well live.
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Good thoughts!
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