Phone Game Is Tough

I used to always think my phone game was on point.   I mean, all I did in the evenings in high school was spend all night on the phone with chicks.   Even in college, I did a lot of talking on the phone with chicks.

Get off the phone with one, then call up another one…

But, it does provide it’s difficulties.

I’ve never been one to leave messages, and I still don’t like to for some reason.  I’ve gone back and forth on that this year, with calling chicks and leaving simple voicemails like the one found in Bang, to leaving no messages to just texting chicks instead.

Honestly, I still don’t know which way works out best…  it’s starting to look like it’s the texting.

Texting has the highest chance of a response (probably because it takes less effort on the girl’s part).

But, I’ve always been partial to talking on the phone…

So, I still generally call a chick after I get her number.  Usually I call them right when I get their number, so they can have mine as well.  Then, I’ll call them a couple of days later to re-engage.  Some of them answer or call right back and every thing is fine.  The problem here is, when they don’t answer or call back…. then, what should I do next?   Text them in a couple of days or something?

And, then, half the time when I do get a chick on the phone, they’ve got friends talking around them, or a TV or radio blaring in the background that I can’t even understand half the shit they’re saying when they’re trying to hold a conversation with me.  It really makes phone game tough when you’re not sure you have the chick’s full attention AND when you can’t even hear the shit she says and you have to ask her to repeat herself.

That shit makes me not want to call girls very much anymore.

I’m starting to prefer texting…. only texting has it’s own problems.  It’s easy to make short one-liners and quips here and there, but it’s not the preferred method for really keeping a conversation going, especially when it takes each person 10-30 minutes to respond to each message.  And, when you’re trying to keep messages fairly short, it doesn’t leave a lot of room to have multiple conversation threads.

Sometimes, I’ll mean to respond to a chick, but then I’ll forget about it and a few hours will pass by.  A lot of times if you respond then, the girl won’t respond back (almost like she’s trying to punish me by taking so long to respond), so lately, if it’s been awhile since her last text and I forgot to respond, I’ll just leave it at that, and hit her up a few days later.

This is what I hate about texting…. everything drags out…

I mean, look at the text message tease I ran the other week.  I originally texted her a 2:45.  By the time we were talking about her coming over she was making excuses because it was late, it was “already 4:30″.  It took almost 2 hours to have a back and forth conversation that would take 2 minutes to have in person.  Seriously.

I guess all of this is just a test of my patience.  And, I don’t really have any.  I tend to want shit to happen right now.

Playing this long, drawn out over time game is tough to me.   But, I guess it’s necessary.

A lot has been said on all of the game blogs about mass texting lately.  So, I’m really working on organizing my phonebook in my phone and getting  a whole bunch of categories down.  I’ve always been a mass texter to some extent.  I always tend to text at least 2 or 3 chicks at once, and even when I go out downtown at night, I usually mass text all my wings to see who’s down to go.

So, now I’m going to have a main category for chicks, with the top 5 or 10 prospects I’m working on right now.

Then, I’m going to have chicks separated out in different categories for what city they live in (since I’m moving cities and a lot of my numbers live in different cities as well), and then also have categories for what month I met them.  That way I can play the text them 3 month later game and in September, I can just mass text my June numbers and see who responds.

I feel like this is where I need to put a lot of my focus now – on working my prospects.  It’s one thing to go to a bar, open a chick and wind up with her phone number – something I was never good at before.  I mean, before this year, I hardly ever went to bars or clubs – because I hated them.  I would only talk to people I knew when I went, and so the only time I ever met girls when I was out would be if somebody I knew introduced me to them.  It happened occassionally, but not often enough to where I enjoyed going to bars or clubs.  I loved house parties in college though – but that’s another story.

Lately, this year, my whole focus has been on actually approaching girls in bars and clubs and not just being that guy that just stands against the wall with a drink in his hand.  I feel like I’ve come a long way in that aspect, as I’ve approached hundreds of girls while out and gotten a shit ton of numbers.  Let’s just say, I’ve deleted over 40 numbers this year….

But, now I feel like working those numbers needs work.

I understand a lot of them will be flakes, but where I’m at, I’m generally only seeing about 1 in 6 of them again.  Every 6 numbers I get, I’ll actually hang out with 1 of those chicks again.  The notch ratio is even worse.  If I had to calculate how many numbers I have to go through in order to get just one notch – this year it’s probably between 20 and 30.  No bullshit.

I got to work on working these numbers better…  any thoughts, tips, suggestions?