Life’s Priorities

So, I was reading What Color Is Your Parachute? the other day, and I couldn’t help but think that the introduction reminded me a lot of the introduction in Mystery Method…..

At the beginning of Mystery Method, they mention that the three areas of focus in order to ensure survival and replication are… 1. Health, 2. Wealth, and 3. Love.

In the introduction of What Color Is Your Parachute?, the author talks about the “3 essential life skills” which we need to know, but are not taught to us during school.  They are 1. How to choose and find a job, 2. How to choose and find an appropriate partner and 3. How to think and make good decisions.

Now, how to think and make good decisions isn’t really the same thing as health (you could say it is mental health, which is included in the broad term “health” and clearly very important), but how to choose and find a job is basically the same thing as building your wealth, and how to choose and find a an appropriate partner is the same thing as love.

Both books also say that improving in one area will help you to improve in the others as well, with Mystery Method also mentioning that the reverse is true – neglecting any of the three vital areas of focus will also bring the others down.

It’s not rocket science to know that these three things are important.  Most people do know that health, wealth and love are important to them and would like to and/or seek to attain them.  Some people are lazy and don’t work hard enough at any of the three and some just focus on one or two and neglect the others.

That’s what I’ve done most of my life.  My focus was always on how to get money.  How to start businesses, how to market ideas, hire people, file taxes, invest/trade stocks and options, invest in real estate.  These are the things I’ve studied for the past few years.

I didn’t put much emphasis on the other two.  I neglected my health and my love life.  I always figured, I could get the money first and then focus on the other two once I was sitting on a nice cushion.

That cushion never came.  I’d make money, I’d blow money.  I’d start businesses, they’d work out for awhile and turn a profit and I’d make a decent amount of money for someone my age in a short period of time, but then the businesses would slow down and fail.  Not only was I chasing money, but I was chasing fast money.  Always hopping on fads and trends, on what could get me paid today, with no look to the future.

I think it was Lil Wayne, who said, “Slow paper is better than no paper, fast money don’t last too long, you gotta pace it…”

Well, I didn’t pace it.  And all of the fast money I’ve made is essentially gone.  The recession has hit me kind of hard, as the fast money hustles are fewer and further in between… or just not as easy.

And this whole time, I’ve neglected the other two areas…. health and love.

Now, I realize that I’d rather focus on all three, and build on all three.  I realize that all three will take work and time, but if I prioritize and get off my ass, I will improve at all three in a few years…. maybe 5, maybe 10, etc, I can be where I want to be in all three areas.  But, the improvement will never stop.  Why should it?   You can always be richer.  You can always be in better shape, and you can always be better with women.  All three are a learning process.

For my health, I’ve been doing p90x lately, and I’ve seen some pretty good results.  I’m on day 67 or so, so I’ll be through with the 90 days in less than a month from now.  After that, I’ll probably take a week or two off, and either start another training program, or I may just do p90x again for a second round.  I also have the p90x plus videos that I have yet to even take a look at, so that’s an option as well.  I’ve also been eating fairly healthy for the past few months.  I haven’t had a soda in months, haven’t eaten french fries in months, actually I haven’t eaten much fried food at all in the past few months.  I will say the exception here is the alcohol I drink.  I tend to pregame before I go out and usually have a beer or two when I’m out as well.  The drinking I do is by far the least healthy thing I put into my body, but I consider that a “cost of doing business” to some extent.  For my mental health, I do math problems, as well as play mental games like IQ tests, sodoku, and word finder type games pretty regularly.  Also, I’m going to start studying for the GMAT next month, so I’ll be putting plenty of time into that as well.

For wealth, well, I’m currently back on the job search.  I just recently bought a couple of new suits to “look the part”.  I’ve been attending different networking events and I have a job fair and a career consultation coming up.  I’m also thinking about taking a few assessment tests to help point me in the right direction and then picking some job titles, I’d like to look at, contact people in those fields and schedule some informational interviews with them to try to find out more about the field, research different companies and work my way in through my network and being proactive.  I’m definitely not trying to just send out resumes to job postings online – that shit gets you worse results than online dating.  I’m also planning on taking the GMAT and heading back to school in a year or two like I mentioned above.  Getting that MBA seems like one of the quickest ways to that 6-figure income, so, fuck it, might as well…

For love, well… here I am.   That’s what this blog is all about.  Getting better with women.  I’ve had my shares of successes and failures, but for the most part, I’ve neglected women.  I know I can do a lot better, and that’s why I’m here learning game.  Love doesn’t just mean finding an LTR and settling down forever.  Naw, not at all.  In this circumstance, it simply means Game.  Dating hotter chicks, getting hotter chicks to fall for you isn’t going to happen if your game isn’t on point.  You have to be that alpha that they’re looking for, create attraction, build comfort, be high value and maintain frame.   I’m out here practicing all of that.  Failing, being inconsistent as hell, but still learning and moving forward.  I see potential for what I can be and how I should be with women.  I’m not there yet.  Far from it, but I can only get there through practice – trial and error, with some studying and insight along the way, and that’s what led me to start this blog and go down this journey in the first place.

All three of these things will take a lot of work, but I’m ready, focused and willing to work at all three, and I realize all three will take a shit ton of work, but like I said, I’ll be so much better a year or two from now than I am today, and that’s what I have my mind set on.  I have to work my ass off, and continue to grind and bust my ass in all three areas in order to be who I want to be, who I feel like I should be in my mind.

No laziness here, I’m getting my priorities straight.